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A little jealousy in a relationship can help bring a couple closer. But too much jealousy is toxic, and destroys relationships. Understanding what’s going on inside a jealous partner can be key to fixing things.

Breaking The Jealousy Cycle Irrational or intense jealousy stems from a number of possible sources — all of which can be fixed.

People who are very jealous, and worry about being cheated on or abandoned often find their worries are justified: their partner cheats or leaves. Here’s how that comes about.

Jealousy Cycles: The Self Fulfilling Prophecy Intense jealousy is agonizing for both sides, and often destroys relationships. Understanding what’s going on is the first step to fixing things.

Everyone knows stories of insanely jealous people who drive their partners crazy. What’s less well known is that those insanely jealous people are driving themselves crazy as well. Here’s what’s going on inside some of them.

Breaking The Jealousy Cycle Irrational or intense jealousy stems from a number of possible sources — all of which can be fixed.

Some people find their romantic relationships follow a pattern: Initial delight in the other person, followed by increasingly jealous thoughts, then arguments and finally a breakup. If that sounds like you, or anyone you know, then read this.

Jealousy Cycles: The Self Fulfilling Prophecy Intense jealousy is agonizing for both sides, and often destroys relationships. Understanding what’s going on is the first step to fixing things.

If you’ve ever felt “OMG, I’ve become that crazy jealous girlfriend looking through my partner’s phone”, then this article is for you.

Breaking The Jealousy Cycle Irrational or intense jealousy stems from a number of possible sources — all of which can be fixed.

Some of us suddenly realize we’ve become the ‘crazy girlfriend’: stalking our partner on social media, searching their electronic devices for evidence of infidelity, checking their credit card bills. We’re horrified to find ourselves doing this, but we can’t stop — nor can we understand how we got to this point.

Jealousy Cycles: The Self Fulfilling Prophecy Intense jealousy is agonizing for both sides, and often destroys relationships. Understanding what’s going on is the first step to fixing things.

Irrational or intense jealousy stems from a number of possible sources — all of which can be fixed once we recognize what’s going on.

Breaking The Jealousy Cycle Irrational or intense jealousy stems from a number of possible sources — all of which can be fixed.

Intense jealousy is agonizing for both sides, and often destroys relationships. Understanding what’s going on is the first step to fixing things.

Jealousy Cycles: The Self Fulfilling Prophecy Intense jealousy is agonizing for both sides, and often destroys relationships. Understanding what’s going on is the first step to fixing things.

When a therapist gives you or your loved one a label (addict, narcissist, avoidant, compulsive and so on) you might think they’re doing it to help their client. But very often, the label is just to make the therapist feel better. Here’s how that works.

The Emptiness of Diagnostic Labels Psychologists will happily give you a label for your emotional problems. Do labels help? And are they even accurate?

Dolphins learn to balance balls because their trainers reward the behavior they want, and ignore the behavior they don’t want. Our romantic partners respond the same way. And that’s an easy way to improve the quality of your romantic relationship.

If You Really Loved Me… Your romantic partner may annoy you in many small ways — but don’t give up. The world of animal training can help.

If you or a loved one have been given a psychological label by a therapist, you might think “A Professional Has Spoken” and that’s the disorder you’ve got. Nothing could be further from the truth.

The Emptiness of Diagnostic Labels Psychologists will happily give you a label for your emotional problems. Do labels help? And are they even accurate?

You may have noticed that criticizing your partner rarely gets the change in behavior that you’re looking for. Here’s an alternative from the world of animal training.

If You Really Loved Me… Your romantic partner may annoy you in many small ways — but don’t give up. The world of animal training can help.

Go see three psychotherapists and ask for a psychological diagnosis from each: you’re likely to get three different disorders. Even highly trained clinicians can’t seem to agree what disorder any individual has. So what’s the function of a diagnosis?

The Emptiness of Diagnostic Labels Psychologists will happily give you a label for your emotional problems. Do labels help? And are they even accurate?

You’ve asked your partner to stop doing something that bothers you. You’ve begged. You’ve pleaded. You’ve gotten annoyed or you’ve gotten cold and distant, but still nothing changes. Is that just the way relationships are, and you’d better get used to it?

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If You Really Loved Me… Your romantic partner may annoy you in many small ways — but don’t give up. The world of animal training can help.

Psychologists will happily give you a label for your emotional problems. Do labels help? And are they even accurate?

The Emptiness of Diagnostic Labels Psychologists will happily give you a label for your emotional problems. Do labels help? And are they even accurate?

Your romantic partner may annoy you in many small ways — but you don’t have to resign yourself to the situation. Take a page from the world of animal training and improve the quality of your relationship.

If You Really Loved Me… Your romantic partner may annoy you in many small ways — but don’t give up. The world of animal training can help.

The research is consistent: the best predictor of success in therapy is a strong relationship between client and therapist. You’d think that every therapist would ask every client for feedback on how the relationship was going. You’d think…and you’d be wrong.

“That Was A Lousy Therapy Session”: The Importance of Client Feedback Therapists are no better than anyone else when it comes to asking for feedback. But consistent, structured feedback can work wonders.

It can be scary for a therapist to ask for feedback from clients — which may be why most of us don’t ask. But knowing when a client is dissatisfied enables a therapist to do things differently. The alternative is a failed course of therapy.

“That Was A Lousy Therapy Session”: The Importance of Client Feedback Therapists are no better than anyone else when it comes to asking for feedback. But consistent, structured feedback can work wonders.

Counsellors invest a lot of time and money in getting the best training they can. Unfortunately, almost all the training that’s out there is focused on the wrong things — and won’t help their clients one bit.

Are Experienced Therapists Better? Every professional improves with training and experience. Every professional it seems, except psychotherapists.

For a therapist to hear a client say that the session wasn’t a great one can be very painful. But negative feedback is a gift, one that can change the course of therapy for the better.

“That Was A Lousy Therapy Session”: The Importance of Client Feedback Therapists are no better than anyone else when it comes to asking for feedback. But consistent, structured feedback can work wonders.

Therapists are no better than anyone else when it comes to asking for feedback from clients. But frequent, structured feedback can work wonders.

“That Was A Lousy Therapy Session”: The Importance of Client Feedback Therapists are no better than anyone else when it comes to asking for feedback. But consistent, structured feedback can work wonders.

Homosexuals in Hong Kong often find it impossible to come out to their parents. Parents who suspect their children are gay may refuse — consciously or unconsciously — to address the issue for fear of the social consequences. Only if society can become more accepting will those social consequences disappear. Ossan’s Love, a new TV drama, is starting a conversation, or even a revolution.

Ossan’s Love & HK’s Revolution It’s very hard to be gay in a conservative society like Hong Kong. A new TV drama is starting to change things.

If you need your appendix removed, it’s best to find a surgeon who’s very experienced. But if you’re not happy and need a therapist, the research shows that it won’t matter much if you find a therapist with one year of experience or 31 years. It also doesn’t matter if the therapist doesn’t specialize in your specific kind of unhappiness. Here’s why.

Are Experienced Therapists Better? Every professional improves with training and experience. Every professional it seems, except psychotherapists.

Growing up gay in Hong Kong can be very tough, and many people feel they can never come out to their families, especially to conservative parents. Even parents who suspect their children are gay often adopt a "don’t ask don’t tell" policy that leaves everyone isolated. A new TV drama is starting to make a difference.

Ossan’s Love & HK’s Revolution It’s very hard to be gay in a conservative society like Hong Kong. A new TV drama is starting to change things.

If you ever need to select a psychotherapist, you’ll probably look at how much experience they have, what degree they’ve got and what their specialization is. Sadly, that won’t help you find a good therapist.

Are Experienced Therapists Better? Every professional improves with training and experience. Every professional it seems, except psychotherapists.

Every professional improves with training and experience. Every professional it seems, except psychotherapists. Here’s why.

Are Experienced Therapists Better? Every professional improves with training and experience. Every professional it seems, except psychotherapists.

The internet has made it easier to be gay in a conservative society like Hong Kong. But the gulf between parents and their gay children will only be bridged when society changes.

Ossan’s Love & HK’s Revolution It’s very hard to be gay in a conservative society like Hong Kong. A new TV drama is starting to change things.

Four hundred and twenty years ago, Shakespeare’s Hamlet asked whether he should “suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, or take arms against a sea of troubles, and by opposing, end them.” We make that decision every day of our lives, whether we know it or not.

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Acceptance or Change: Hamlet’s Dilemma Is Still With Us Psychotherapy is all about changing our lives. But sometimes, change isn’t the answer: acceptance is.

As children, we acted in ways to win love and avoid punishment. As adults, we sometimes act in similar ways to achieve the same goals. But if our childhood was troubled, those childhood behaviors — so useful and necessary at the time — may well cause big problems today.

Childhood Strategies — Adult Disasters Self destructive behavior often has its roots in childhood — a time when that same behavior was helpful, not harmful.

The Serenity Prayer is almost synonymous with Alcoholics Anonymous. But each of us faces the Prayer’s dilemma in our everyday lives: what do we try to change, and what do we simply accept?
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Acceptance or Change: Hamlet’s Dilemma Is Still With Us Psychotherapy is all about changing our lives. But sometimes, change isn’t the answer: acceptance is.