Kerry Stutzman, Parentologist

Working together with my son was sparked by a devastating and staggering statistic: “40% of youth su***des are preceded by intense conflict with parents.” As a mother who used to worry about her teenage son DAILY and who felt helpless about the trajectory her son was on, and a teenage boy who struggled deeply with depression and suicidality, this statistic really hit home for us.

On September 29th (tomorrow!) from 10AM-Noon, the Denver Family Institute is hosting us for a presentation where we will walk parents through the raw, messy middle of our once completely disconnected relationship and the three keys that helped us mend it. 🧡 You can join us virtually through Zoom. 🌎

By attending this talk in-person or online, you will:
⭐️Gain a deep sense of understanding for parents and teens who struggle to connect
⭐️Recognize some of the subtle indicators of youth su***de risk and depression
⭐️Leave with easy-to-implement strategies for creating a family kids want to come home to.

Link to learn more is at https://the connected family.us.

Kerry Stutzman, Parentologist Helping parents transform their families from chaotic to close and connected.
Therapy and classes :-)

Do you worry about your teen's mental health? Do you long for a closer family where your teen shares what they are going through with you? We've been there as mother and son, and have now made it our life’s work to honor both parents and teens as learners in the process of navigating the adolescent years. 💕

Join us for a LIVE presentation on September 29th from 10AM-Noon MT. You can join us in person in Denver, Colorado OR virtually through Zoom. 🌏

By attending this talk in-person or online, you will:
⭐️Benefit from paradigm-shifting discussions and exercises on how to implement the Family CPR model into your family or therapy practice
⭐️Gain a deep sense of understanding for parents and teens who struggle to connect
⭐️Recognize some of the subtle indicators of youth su***de risk and depression
⭐️Leave with easy-to-implement strategies for creating a family kids want to come home to

Register at the link in bio! 😊🎉
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3 things you teen wants you to know 💕 We asked teens all over the country “what do you wish your parents knew?” and were amazed by the vulnerable, heartfelt responses we received 💌
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We are hosting a FREE webinar on Sunday August 27th at 4pm MT. We will share practical solutions to help you:
☀️Stop yelling
☀️Be the parent you want to be
☀️Create a closer, more connected family

This has been a topic I have spoken with clients about for years and have done a lot of my own learning about as a marriage and family therapist and as a mom. It is also a topic Palmer spends a lot of time on in his training to be a marriage and family therapist at Northwestern University. We want to share what we have learned with YOU so you have the skills to break the yelling cycle. 🙌

If this is a topic you want to dive into with us, register for free at the link in bio 😊

A year ago today, it was a piece of heaven walking down the aisle with Palmer at his wedding where he married his best friend. The mother-son dance? Bliss…. Especially after all the work we’ve done to repair a broken relationship. Happy one year anniversary, Palmer!! Wishing you a lifetime of happy anniversaries with Anabelle!! I love you. 💕

Kerry Stutzman, Parentologist Helping parents transform their families from chaotic to close and connected.
Therapy and classes :-)

It’s my 10,000th day of mothering! That's like a million loads of laundry and a trillion tantrums but I wouldn't trade it for the world!

Meet Athena!
She is a Marriage and Family Therapy Candidate and a Licensed Professional Counselor Candidate. She helps individuals look through the lens of their relationships, couples work on how they relate to each other, and whole families who want to feel closer and more connected.

Would you like to get to know her more? Please click the link below for our special interview with her!
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www.kerrystutzman.com/spotlight-athena

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It’s easy to think we do our partners a favor by continually putting them first and keeping the peace at all costs. But it’s a paradox: if we lose ourselves, we lose our ability to connect authentically and intimately with our beloved partners. “Keeping the peace” ends up meaning we stifle ourselves. Rather than experiencing peace, we end up feeling irritable.

If you are looking across a large chasm between you and your partner, part of the solution might be coming home to yourself.

Double tap if you agree!

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Gratitude opens our hearts and helps us see that there is so much that we’ve been given. May you enjoy this festive day with the company of family and friends you love and cherish— Happy Thanksgiving!

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Meet Debbie!

Debbie is a trained and experienced marriage and family therapist of Kerry Stutzman and Associates. She is a licensed psychologist with a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and Post-Masters Degree in School Psychology. Her clients receive numerous effective, strength-based methodologies to tackle personal and relational needs and goals.

We hope that knowing a bit about your therapist before your first visit helps you make a connection even before meeting them. Please click the link below for our special interview with her!

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www.kerrystutzman.com/spotlight-debbie/ #

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We celebrate our children’s growth at the same time we ache about the loss of their littleness.

Whatever stage of your child's development you are in, I send love. I hope you are gentle with yourself as you navigate the transitions that get reflected rather clearly every back-to-school season.

Please tag a parent who needs to see this!

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I get it. You're a good mom, you care about your family, and you want to be there for everyone in it. But sometimes, it feels like you care for everyone and forget about YOU.

As a therapist who works primarily with moms, I've seen this happen over and over: women who have dropped their self-care in the process of trying to be good partners and mothers. They've taken on more of the household responsibilities than is reasonable; they've given up hobbies that bring them joy; they've put their needs behind those of everyone else in their families. Their lives feel full, but a bit too full of everyone else's needs and a lot short of what it takes to keep themselves in balance. They are fundamentally loving, generous women with huge hearts — and yet they are out of balance.

Can you relate? Please comment below!

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Healing our past helps us show up well in the present, which impacts our future. Courage is required, but it takes just one person doing their work to start changing generational patterns.

Emotional work helps us find more peace, calm, and acceptance on the inside. This translates to more peace, calm, and acceptance on the outside.

If someone asked me, “What do you wish you had known about motherhood?” I would answer, “I had no idea how much I would be stretched to do my self-growth to show up for my kids.” From parenting skills to self-awareness to healthy relationships. I’ve needed to grow in all those aspects for the sake of casting the ripples that I want for our family life.

I am holding you and the generations before and after you in love.

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The very essence of parenting is about falling in and out of balance, in and out of connection, in and out of inner calm.

We find a moment of connection. Then we lose it. There is no such thing as staying perfectly balanced in the same position indefinitely. And yet, every parent I know (and I know a lot of them!) laments the times they’ve been out of balance. Most think they should be in a more constant state of balance and connection.

If we always lived a perfectly balanced life with perfectly balanced parenting and if we never struggle, we will not grow. We will just be living a kind of embalmed life. The psychoanalyst Adam Phillips said, “Unbalancing acts are a vital and indicative part of our aliveness.”

Agree or disagree? Please share your thoughts below!

P.S. I am about to open the doors to a place for moms to be real, connect, and build their own skills in the process.⁠
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Will I see you there?⁠
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The Moms Group⁠
https://bit.ly/TheMomsGroup⁠