Be Ye Renewed: Mental Health & Pastoral Counseling

This evening my two segments with Marc Lamont Hill of TheGrio shed light on holiday stress, seasonal affective disorder, in addition to suicidal prevention and warning signs! 📺🧠

RIP Stephen ’tWitch’ Boss.

Mental Health is TOTAL health! (988 = Su***de Crisis & Lifeline)
Check on & love on your family and friends! 🙏🏾

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the Grio on Instagram: "Licensed professional counselor, Chimere G. Holmes, gives us warning signs to look out for in those who may be dealing with suicidal thoughts. #Griofam, tune into The Grio with @marclamonthill weeknights at 7 pm ET on The... the Grio shared a post on Instagram: "Licensed professional counselor, Chimere G. Holmes, gives us warning signs to look out for in those who may be dealing with suicidal thoughts. , tune into The Grio with weeknights at 7 pm ET on The Grio's cable network.". Follow their acc...

Cannot wait until this book 📚 is released Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT

Taking responsibility is a cornerstone of healthy relationships, and being able to take responsibility for your part is an important first step. It’s important to be honest with yourself about what you’re bringing to the table when it comes to chronic disconnection and conflict. When you can get clear on the things you need to shift, you also protect yourself from becoming overly responsible. Your contribution to the relationship is no longer nebulous; it’s clear.

To learn more about how to take responsibility for your part without overextending read my book I Want This To Work.

Saturday 🧠 Mental Health Reminder 📢:
Suppressing your emotions, whether feelings of intense anger, sadness, grief, resentment, or frustration can actually lead to physical stress in your body and limits the way you handle difficult feelings in the future.
Recognizing when you’re feeling a particular way is important. You don’t have to do this verbally or aggressively toward others, as long as you acknowledge what is happening internally and pause from time to time to check in with yourself.
In order to understand what you’re feeling, reflect on the way you reacted and dealt with the person or situation that may have led to the feeling in the first place. Difficult feelings will pass, and you have the power to decide how you will healthily cope with them. Remember you have options and the only way out is through. ➡️
How can you show up for yourself today and lean into feelings of discomfort? Some tangible suggestions include:
🤍Acknowledge the feeling
🤍Try 4 rounds of box breathing
🤍Cry if you need to…
🤍Try not to ruminate and obsess over the problem
🤍Open yourself to others and vent to a friend or a loved one
🤍Write about the situation in a journal
🤍Move your body, tap into your favorite physical activity to channel that bodily energy
🤍Spend time outside and soak up some sun while taking a brisk walk

Feel the feels!🧠

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Being a just-right communicator begins with the belief that you are responsible for the integrity of your own communication, that you must include your own needs & feelings, & that you should consider how you can still be respectful to the other person when expressing yourself.⁠

Excerpt from I Want This To Work. Available everywhere books are sold.

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Juneteenth, is short for June Nineteenth. June Nineteenth represents the day when federal troops arrived in Galveston, Texas back in 1865 to ensure that all enslaved people were set free. The arrival of the federal troops came two and a half years after the signing of the Emancipation Proclamation. Juneteenth honors the official end of slavery throughout the United States and is the longest-running African-American holiday.
As the late Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “No one is free until we are ALL free."
Today, Be Ye Renewed Counseling celebrates Juneteenth with great pride and admiration. We call to remembrance the 12.5 million men and women who were forced into slavery through the transatlantic slave trade and lost everything—including their identities, families, culture, and lives. Black history IS American history. Happy Juneteenth!

You are allowed to choose your relationships based on whether they align with not only your needs, but also your wants.

Shrinking your needs to accommodate your relationships often means becoming smaller, more insecure, and more resentful over time. It means you begin to live at a fraction of the full-bodied human you are.

Someone being unable to meet your needs is an extremely valid reason to de-prioritize or leave a relationship. This does not make you mean, selfish, or lacking compassion. It means you’re clear on who you are and what you need, and you are not willing to sacrifice those needs out of compulsory obligation or guilt.

It’s means you’re being realistic about the mismatch that exists. It means you’re not trying to fit a square peg into a round hole and get resentful when it doesn’t fit.

Someone might be “a great person” by all measures —but if they’re not aligned with your needs and wants, it’s okay not to prioritize that relationship.

The same way you deserve folks in your life who align with your needs, THEY deserve folks in their life who align with theirs. Acknowledging mismatch enables BOTH parties to find relationships that better align.

🚨 Get your ticket for TONIGHT's workshop, Courageous Dating for the Recovering People-Pleaser, to learn how to own your needs in your romantic life ⁠— and identify partners who honor them! Tickets (and on-demand recording if you can't make it live) here: www.haileymagee.com/workshops

"Sometimes our relationships have experienced ruptures that are impossible to repair. Sometimes the wound can only heal outside of the relationship."⁠
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- Elizabeth Earnshaw⁠
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Have you ever experienced this?

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Be Ye Renewed Counseling wishes all the mothers, mother figures & fur mamas a very happy and joyous Mother’s Day—You are appreciated! 💛

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