Yasmine Jeffers, Licensed Therapist

I am currently not taking new clients and found this list to be helpful. I’d add that because there is a shortage, limit phone calls, if you can schedule a consultation or appointment online, that makes things so much easier. Alternatively, you can send an email that tends to be easier as well, at least for me. Keeping in mind I am in session all day most days, and pretty tired at the end of the day. Returning phone calls tend to require a lot of energy with a limited window. Emails or scheduling done that matches my availability is so much easier. Also, my website answers 90% of the questions I get, so make sure you get as much information you can on your own before asking. Posted • Anxiety and depression have been on the rise in the United States since the start of the pandemic. This has led to a crisis in mental health that has been worsened by the shortage of mental health counselors.

Do not stay for the sake of the children. It can cause more damage. Posted • .holistic.psychologist Like many people, I witnessed a dysfunctional relationship between my parents. As a kid, I remember having this deep fear they were getting divorced. Because no one talked about emotions or issues that were going on, all I could do was feel them.

As I got older, I have vivid memories of having deep anger towards my mom.

One of the clearest was at a soft ball tournament, where she was cheering me on at a time I wasn’t doing well. Such a benign action sent anger through my entire body. I’ve had many of these moments— that I mostly felt shame around. I’ve seen these same flashes of anger in my siblings.

It took me years to understand what was behind it.

Why would I get so angry at my mom in these seemingly normal moments?

Because they trigger memories of years of the unpressed pain of not having my emotional needs met as a child. I was an afterthought. And when my moms attention was focused on me during performance it triggered memories of just how emotionally absent she actually was.

In my early 30s, my dad pulled up a chair for my mom + I in the kitchen. The family had connected her chronic pain to unresolved trauma + in this moment I was expected to be her therapist.

I sat across from her + my dad. Wondering how many times this was expected of me as a child. I have almost no childhood memories, but these adult situations helped to connect the dots.

One of the beautiful parts of uncovering your past is you understand yourself. And most importantly, you understand there’s an inner child inside of you who’s looking for validation, understanding, + compassion.

It also helps you understand your parents. Not as hero’s or perfect humans (something no one could meet) but as human beings with their own flaws, pain, + generational trauma

THIS! I am so honored to work with a lot of men who do the brave work to understand themselves and work hard to end the confusion. This is exactly why I discussed my distaste for the saying “happy wife, happy life” in my last post. For a lot of men it perpetuates this idea that their emotional experience and needs don’t matter. Let’s support our men, as they work hard to change within our restrictive systems. Posted • .holistic.psychologist This feels important

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I’m reading Clarity and Connection by Yung Pueblo, and I almost want to highlight every page! But I wanted to share these two for anyone having tough days and for anyone dealing with growing pains. A reminder of your goals and to take care of yourself as you try to reach your goals. And I posted two days in a row, wow, lol!